How to Navigate Family Dynamics (especially if toxic) This Holiday Season

How to Navigate Family Dynamics (especially if toxic) This Holiday Season

Hi babe! 🤗

Samantha, Founder of Maniscripting, here, and personally IDK about you, but it's just recently that I've started looking forward to spending time with family and the holidays again...

It's been a decade-long journey of figuring out how to handle spending lots of time with family... and keeping my mindset and energy positive.

I want you to know...

It IS POSSIBLE to shine your bright light, feel good about your family, and actually look forward to celebrating the holidays.

Stepping into this holiday season, the time when you’re supposed to gather with your family and have a joyous celebration. In reality, you end up experiencing fights, anxiety, resentment, and frustration.

Why does this happen more around the holidays?

Sometimes we fall back into our childlike selves and play that old role in the family because it’s familiar and comfortable.

Does this resonate?

Finding that awareness is part of the solution to actually enjoying family holiday time.

If you feel anxiety, stress, or dread the holiday season, this episode will arm you with the tools to help you thrive. It all starts with you. Not the nosy second cousin who loves to gossip or the grumpy grandpa who says hurtful things to you.

Stepping into the holiday season can be a joyous occasion for many, but for those grappling with toxic family dynamics or facing ridicule for their career choices, it's a daunting journey fraught with emotional landmines.

As the air fills with festive cheer, the weight of strained relationships and disparaging remarks can cast a shadow on what should be a celebratory time. If you find yourself nodding in recognition, know that you're not alone.

Navigating family gatherings rife with negativity requires a unique set of strategies to protect your energy and maintain your sanity.

Below, we'll explore practical tips to help you not only survive but thrive during the holidays, even when surrounded by a less-than-supportive family environment.

I also invite you to listen to my latest podcast episode where I share personal stories and a few quick tips written here so we can embark on a journey of self-care, boundary-setting, and resilience that ensures your well-being takes center stage this festive season!


Money, Mindset & Manicures Podcast: Episode 19: Thriving Through Turbulent Holiday Times

In this episode, I share my tools to get you prepared for family time and help you navigate being around energy drains all while living your truth.

I invite you to listen to Episode 19 of Money, Mindset, and Manicures: Click to save the episode to listen later!

Here are some tips to help you protect your energy:

  1. Set Boundaries: Clearly define your boundaries and communicate them assertively but respectfully. Let your family know what behavior is not acceptable, and be prepared to enforce those boundaries if necessary.

  2. Limit Exposure: If possible, limit the amount of time you spend with toxic family members. Attend gatherings for a shorter duration or plan your visits strategically to minimize exposure to negativity.

  3. Create Distractions: Bring activities or distractions with you to family events. This could be a book, a game, or anything that can help you focus on something positive and divert your attention away from negative interactions.

  4. Build a Support System: Connect with friends or supportive family members who understand your situation. Having a support system outside of your toxic family can provide emotional support and perspective.

  5. Practice Self-Care: Prioritize self-care during the holidays. Whether it's taking a walk, meditating, or engaging in activities you enjoy, make time for yourself to recharge and maintain your emotional well-being.

  6. Stay Positive: Focus on the positive aspects of your life, including your career achievements and personal growth. Remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments to boost your confidence.

  7. Avoid Engaging in Arguments: Toxic individuals may try to provoke arguments or criticism. Practice avoiding unnecessary confrontations, and if a conversation becomes toxic, disengage and remove yourself from the situation.

  8. Seek Professional Support: Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor to navigate the emotional challenges associated with a toxic family. They can provide coping strategies and a safe space to discuss your feelings.

  9. Create Alternative Plans: If spending time with your family feels unbearable, consider creating alternative plans for the holidays. You might choose to spend time with friends, volunteer, or engage in activities that bring you joy.

  10. Reflect on Expectations: Manage your expectations for family interactions. Accept that you cannot change others, but you can control your reactions and how you choose to respond.


As we navigate the intricacies of family dynamics during the holiday season, always remember that you are a beacon of light and strength.

Remember that taking care of your mental and emotional well-being is crucial. It's okay to prioritize your happiness and set boundaries to protect your energy.

Your journey, though challenging, is uniquely yours, and every step you take toward self-care and resilience is a triumph.

I want you to know that you are not alone. I am with you in spirit, cheering you on, and sending waves of love your way.

I am so grateful for you to be here in this sisterhood community, and I honor you in doing the work that will impact all those around you!

May you find moments of peace, joy, and connection that resonate with the essence of the holidays.

Wishing you a season filled with warmth, understanding, and the unwavering knowledge that you are deserving of love and happiness.

Here's to embracing the light within you and sharing it with the world.

Wishing you a happy Thanksgiving, and if you are not celebrating, I am so grateful for you and sending so much love!  



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